Always Learning, Always Changing

Last week actually flew by.  I find it a little crazy how some weeks can drag and others move so quick I feel like I didn’t accomplish as much.  But last week not only flew by, I accomplished many things I had been putting off.

I finished Day Job to Dream Job, finally.  Although it didn’t really give me any definite course of action, it made me think.  

I posted in MyWeeklyMenu Facebook page.  Simple posts, thus I am not sharing them, but it’s a start.  I also gave my tech designer and husband concrete ideas on how I want the site to work.  That’s more accomplished on this dream since it was my entrepreneur project during my study abroad course 2 years ago!

I walked.  I have been going to Physical Therapy now for about 5 months.  I’m undecided if it’s helped, but I am able to walk. I walked my 2.5 mile route both Thursday and Sunday.  This week I want to hit 3 times.  Focused on completing a half marathon before the end of the year.

I engaged with my staff.  I love my staff.  But lately I haven’t taken the time to listen and coach them.  Last week I kept to our touchbases and actually brought some topics to the table.  It feels good to make others a priority.  

I blogged.  I cleaned out the mudroom.  I helped build a deck.  I organized our closet.  I researched what to do with old vinyl records. I made time to talk to my daughter who was having a hard time.  I took my husband to lunch for Father’s Day because he’s been an awesome Dad to my two kids.  I took a nap while watching Sunday news shows.  I went to yoga – 3 times.  I went to a baseball game to spend time with my sorority sisters.  Wow!  I did accomplish a lot!  

So at 50, or almost 51 at this point, I’m still doing.  I’m still living.  I’m still finding out who I am. That’s what I am coming to find; no matter the age, as humans we are still exploring, always learning and always changing.  Just because I have hit a certain age, doesn’t mean I have stopped evolving.  That I have stopped growing.  In many ways I still feel like that scared school girl, unsure of so many things.  But that school girl was always headstrong and focused on achieving things: a spelling bee, a part in a play, a dance solo, a high grade.  I’m still that over achiever, but with a half century of experience in life, I now only set out to achieve what matters to me.  What makes me warm and fuzzy on the inside.  So today I am going to keep this flow of energy and accomplishments of the last week moving!  Maybe next week I will have changed the world!  One can dream!

Focus – the Future is ALWAYS out there

I know.  It’s been about 4 months since I took thumbs to phone and posted to this blog.  I could come up with dozens of excuses: vacationing in Guatemala, Mom visiting, teaching, depressed; just a few of the excuses.  But let’s face it, when you really want to do something you do it!  So I guess I just really didn’t want to focus on this blog. Not sure why, but I just couldn’t find a voice. I couldn’t find my focus.  Today I am dusting off my life lense and putting my future in focus.  

I turn 51 in just a few weeks.  Being 50 has definitely changed my outlook.  I no longer think of changing jobs, but instead of changing careers. I know longer feel guilty for missing a meeting or two, people can get along without me.  I stand my ground much more when it comes to my values.  I spend hours thinking of ways to help improve life for my mom and kids.  But mostly, I have realized there is no reason to stop planning a future.  It is always out there. Whether you are a toddler, teenager, recent college grad, a divorced single parent, or a retired senior, tomorrow is another day and that my friends is every reason to keep the future in focus.  The second we stop is the second we cease to truly live.  

My future is going to have me working at many things I have only daydreamed about.  Instead of dreaming, I am going back to planning.  Figuring out what makes the most sense for me.  I am not a huge risk taker, so I will need time to focus in on what I not only want to do, but can do successfully within my frame of mind.  What am I good at?  What is my passion? 

I am doing what I do – studying others advice and trying to put it all together to create my own story.  Today I am reading “Day Job to Dream Job.”  I’ve been reading it for months and it’s only a little over 200 pages.  As I said, I haven’t had much focus these last few months.  But today I am changing lenses resetting and putting my future in focus.  If that holds true, you can bet my thumbs will be typing on this blog again soon! 

My New Year’s Resolution in One Word

Time hasn’t changed much regarding New Year’s resolutions. They are as old as the Babylonians. Yes, really they are! Back then the most common resolution was to get out of debt. Others were to return borrowed items or to do something that would win favors with the gods. Starting a new year and wanting to improve ourselves seems as old as time. Yet so many resolutions go by the wayside before January 31st comes along.

I have always been one to make resolutions, yet like many of you, I rarely keep it going. By the next New Year’s Eve, I can’t even remember what my resolution was from 365 days ago. Luckily for Time Hop, I was reminded of my resolution from two years ago: Enjoy life while I can, try something new every month, laugh every day and keep family and friends close at heart. I posted this as a repeat resolution for 2015 early on New Year’s Day. Soon after that though, I read a friend’s Facebook post about choosing a one word for the year to live by. It should be a word that may have many different meanings throughout the year, but being one word, one should be able to remember it. Then, of course, I Googled it. Lo and behold an entire website devoted to one word – http://oneword365.com/, and another one, http://myoneword.org/. There are also a few blogs writing about it. The concept makes sense. How can you forget one word? Could focusing on one word make a difference?

I am not convinced I will do any better with one word, but I am going to give it a try for 2015. But now how do I pick One Word? Looking at my resolution from two years ago, which are still things I want to reinforce in my life, I find the words present and engaged coming to mind. Present, because I want to be present, meaning fully engaged with each day and enjoying it. I want to be engaged in whatever I am doing; not planning for whatever is next. Trying something new every month isn’t easy if you are not engaged to make the time and do it. Laugh every day comes from being present in the moment and listening for the joy that surrounds us every day in some way; and what better way to keep friends and family close to heart then to be present when they are near and truly engaged with their presence.

So which word will be my word of 2015? I have chosen engaged. I can be present, yet choose to not engage. This wouldn’t come close to what I’m trying accomplish. I can engage in practicing more patience. I can engage fully in my Yoga class. I can engage in meetings at work rather than multi tasking and checking my phone every few minutes. There are so many ways I can engage myself this next year and I believe that is the whole purpose of choosing only word. It creates a habit, rather than a resolution that goes away after a few weeks or months. This habit then will hopefully stay with me on my journey rather than something I have to resolve to again and again.

So as I engage in my blog writing, I am going to commit to writing about what I named this blog: Friends, Family and Feelings on turning Fifty. Most of my recent blogs have been about feelings, but not necessarily on turning fifty. So how does this writing on my One Word fit into my blog? I want my New Year’s resolution to last more than a month or two. I want it to help make me a better person. I don’t want it to be something to try and accomplish in one year. I want my New Year’s resolution to contribute to a better, lasting me. At fifty, you learn that simple ideas can create wonderful things. So a simple word will become my 2015 mantra to living a better life at fifty than at forty or thirty or twenty. My desire to live a happy life, be a better person and positively contribute to the world has evolved as I have aged. Growing older brings wisdom to live a better a life, and purpose knowing that life is not forever.

So, I wish those of you reading this, and all beings, a Happy New Year! I truly hope you come closer to the person you want to be and that you are leaving a legacy of better world. May your dreams become reality, or perhaps may your reality be your dream.
#engaged